Tag: Review

Take a peek inside my January Boho Berry Box!


When I started my Butler’s Book journey about a year ago a good friend recommended checking out the Boho Berry Tribe on Facebook. This lead me down a wonderful rabbit hole of community and resources. Kara, the owner of Boho Berry, is a wealth of information when it comes to journaling and an inspiration as an entrepreneur. When she launched her Boho Berry Box subscription in late 2017 I jumped at the chance to snag a box. Today I want to share with you what came in the Snail Mail edition (January 2018) in preparation for #INCOWRIMO

Here’s a peak of what’s in the box!

Ps: This is the box that arrived in January in preparation for February. I forgot she calls them by the month ahead not the month they arrive! Whoops!


I Got a Kink Crate and I’m BEYOND Shocked in the Best Way Possible!


Last weekend I went to visit fellow kink educator and awesome rope partner-in-crime TheStuntDouble to unbox my newly arrived “Couples” Kink Crate. Honestly, we were totally prepared for some giggles and 50 Shades-style feather tickers and velcro cuffs. Instead, we were shocked by what is actually a pretty damn well-curated box of not just toys but QUALITY educational materials! Check out the unboxing video at the bottom and some of my thoughts on my first Kink Crate.*

The Box

I put my name in the hat a few months ago to review the Kink Crates and when I opened up the box I was beyond excited to see that it was a rope themed box! I mean anyone who knows me knows I’m a giant rope slut. It’s like it was meant to be.

Right on top of the box was the Kink Crate Handbook and Kink Diary. The handbook is filled with really fucking useful information for anyone just testing out the waters of bondage including safety info (such as nerve damage risks and first aid), negotiations, and some great starter ties. The Diary is a cute little addition to keep track of what works and doesn’t and any fun ideas you want to try later!

Jay Wiseman’s Basic Rope Bondage was the next item I wiped out which is perfect step by step starter book and it’s convenient “toy bag” size means you can carry it anywhere for some rope reading on the go!

There are also some other smaller items like the Twizzlers (BEST PERVERTABLE CANDY!) and stickers.

The Rope

This kink crate came with three bundles of rope: hemp, cotton, and leather! I’ll describe them in order of preference starting with my least favorite.

#3 Hemp – This rope smelt and felt more like jute to me. In fact, I actually incorrectly corrected myself once I had my hands on it while taping the unboxing. I’m a fan of rougher natural fiber but this 8mm rope was even a bit rough to the touch for me and has an extremely loose lay.

#2 Cotton – The braided cotton is what I think of when I remember my first bundles of sex shop bondage ropes!. That’s not a bad thing by any stretch. In a sexy shade of red, this rope is really soft and fairly flexible. With just a bit of bite to the fibers, your knots won’t go sliding every which way.

#1 Leather – Of the three this is my favorite by far! I’ve never played with leather rope before and the blending of two of my tops kinks definitely makes me more than a bit wet. Upon first inspection, the rope is similar to paracord in thickness and design with its solid core and exterior stitched leather sheath. I loved the way this felt against my skin! It was super smooth but the seam of the leather digs in just a bit.

Spot Fucking On

Between the scientifically accurate, sex+ information from reliable writers/educators to the variety of rope provided the Kink Crate for couples was spot fucking on! I dig the fact there was variety in the box so people new to rope bondage can get an idea of what they like or don’t.

I also loved the fact that there was diversity in their representation too! The Kink Squad card has a variety women (both top and bottoms) and the icon for next months Nips and Whips theme is a female POC top. On top of the visual, they have boxes for singles and couples with options for male/female, female/female, AND male/male couples. 

I definitely recommend checking it out whether you’re new to kink or just want to try something new. Want to save 33% on your first Kink Crate? Check out http://kinkcrate.com/RUNNINGAEMOK!


Full Unboxing!


*Kink Crate sent this box to me for review. The affiliate link to their site gives you, my wonderful readers, a 33% discount on your first box and I can earn more boxes to test out!


American Savage, Pissing off People One Essay At A Time


American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

I’ve been a fan of Dan Savage after stumbling on his Savage Love podcast a few years ago. I found his outspoken, passionate, often against the grain approach refreshing and inspiring. When his 2013 book American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics popped into my audible recommendations I went ahead and grabbed a copy. It seemed a timely read given current events, particularly the recent US election, and I was interested in seeing if his longer works held up compared to the shorter ones I had previously read. I also tend to like audiobooks that are read by the authors as we get to hear it as the author intended. What I found was a collection of writings that were spot on, sometimes emotional, and consistently engaging. Savage doesn’t shy away from points that piss some people off! Something that isn’t difficult when you tackle topics like when cheating may actually be a decent option, Obamacare, and Rick Santorum. To soften the edges and balance the book out a bit, Savage also talks about his personal life in an open, honest way. From the struggles of raising a child to the process of grieving for a parent that has passed we’re reminded that this opinionated passionate advocate is also just a human being.

For someone who spends a lot of time with the ears of their audience, I had high expectations for the American Savage audiobook and was happy to hear the passionate, snarky, unapologetic delivery I had hoped for. In a text that is sometimes joyous and other times tear inducing, Savage shares his personal history and reflections on current events which allow just about any reader to find something of interest between these covers.

Pro: great listen/read, relevant,

Con: can be abrasive for some

Overall: In the end, I was not disappointed by the text or the delivery of American Savage and highly recommend this work to both long time fans of Savage as well as readers who have an interest in modern families, LGBTQ+ culture, and equality.


  • American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics
  • Dan Savage
  • Dutton Adult
  • May 2013
  • ISBN-13: 978-0525954101



“Open” doesn’t mean “Pass to Cheat”


This morning I came across this article about Mo’Nique, a well known and award winning actress, speaking publicly about her open marriage to Sidney Hicks. It was based off part of an interview the actress had recently done for True Exclusives. Overall it’s a good article and Mo’Nique explains her feelings on why monogamy just doesn’t make sense to her in a way that I think can be very accessible to a wide audience.

What irked me about the article was the title! Corinne Heller titled the piece for NBC6 South Florida as “Mo’Nique Talks Open Relationships, With a Free Pass to Cheat: ‘I Don’t Want to Be Owned Anymore.” ‘Cheating’ is LITERALLY being dishonest!  “Free pass to cheat” doesn’t just imply but actually states that there is active deception and misleading going on between partners.  That’s not at all what Mo’Nique said! Specifically she says “We don’t cheat.”  She accurately points out that most cheating happens because people feel they aren’t getting something and how completely unreasonable it is to think that you or your partner will never find someone else attractive. She then talks about being open and honest with your partner about how you’re feeling.

“Often times people cheat because of something they’re not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue and you say we’re just human beings and all these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won’t ever say ‘he’s fine’ or ‘she’s attractive’. Now if you wanna go further with it, let’s be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find that you wanna sleep with? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do. And if that’s the case, how can I be mad? Because I’m not gon’ do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That’s when the relationship is real real.”

People who openly communicate with each other about what they want and are honest about the types of relationships they are having DO NOT have a “pass to cheat”. They have a relationship that allows them to express themselves without the judgment and ridicule we find in many monogamous relationships and society in general.

The original interviewer is to blame for the specific line “free pass to cheat” when he asks Mo’Nique about her feelings of privacy in relationships. Unfortunately, Heller added it to the title of her piece which I fell misrepresents Mo’Niques actual feelings on non monogamy. I get the feeling they are there to grab readers attention because of their shock value.

So YAY Mo’Nique on being confident and comfortable enough to speak publicly about your open relationship. BOO to the author for keeping with the “free pass to cheat” way of thinking about non monogamy.