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Hitchin’ Bitches Tampa Intensive with DespoenaCalypso


Last weekend the Tampa Chapter of Hitchin’ Bitches had the opportunity to host DespoenaCalypso (DC) for a two-day intensive. Across the seven couples the class had a mixed range of abilities coming into the weekend. The group was across the skill spectrum and honestly this made me a bit nervous. I’ve been to other intensives and the instructors either flew through leaving people in the dust or took so long helping the beginners along that the rest almost fell asleep. DC was able to find a great balance to her teaching though making sure that EVERYONE brought something home with them.

Day One

The first day we took a bit of time to see where everyone was with some simple but critical ties. Once DC felt comfortable that we were all at a safe place to learn the curriculum for the weekend we jumped right in with TKs and variations. The bottoms were all awesome and patient as the tops worked through the ties. We also worked through hip harnesses and talked about energy through rope play, and Ichinawa vs. Muganawa. The night ended with a trip to the monthly party, Circuit, in Ybor.

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Day Two

Day two we started with a class focused on bottoming and prepping our bodies. Rarely do we get time to talk about this kind of thing so I was really happy to start the day out this way. It was also a great way to get everyone’s bodies awake and moving after a long first day/night out. We spent the rest of the day working through partials,  suspensions and again ended with a fantastically hot scene between DC and Optical pulling all the skills from the weekend together.


The ties we were working through were ones that I’m familiar with so for me it was the little things, variations and the precise details, I got to focus on. Things like adjusting the tension on my wraps and making my frictions hard like “little pebbles”*  The fact that I never got bored/distracted was due to DC’s approach in teaching. Everyone got a little one on one throughout the day blended in with our class time allowing her to make personalized suggestions and notes.


There were so many great moments during our two days together and I was happy to see so many Hitchin’ Bitches, new and old, make leaps and bounds in their rope work. A HUGE thank you to both DC and Optical for sharing your time, knowledge, and passion for rope. We’re already planning next years event!


*DC contributes this phrase to Gorgone when she gave an intensive earlier this summer and it absolutely stuck with me too.

**Disclaimer: I’ve known DC for a several years and have had the opportunity to work with her over the last two. She’s influenced and helped form my personal rope style and philosophy.


Morpheous’ Bondage Extravaganza


Like Bondage? Like Rope? Want to see 12 hours of amazingly talented rope artist come together in the worlds LARGEST public display of rope bondage? Join us October 4th in Toronto, Orlando, and on the web for Morpheous’ Bondage Extravaganza! Additionally performances from the San Francisco event held at The Armory Upper Floor will be broadcast during the webstream.



*PS: It’s Free to come!


Why YES! Fat girls do it too.


I am a fluffy girl. By fluffy I mean I’m fat by society standards at 5’2 200lbs. This is not a negative comment against myself just a statement of the current, shifting, state of my physical body. While I used to be thinner I have always been curvy and though at first glance you might dismiss me as just another fat girl I am incredibly flexible and strong. I’ve danced ballet, pointe, and modern. I enjoy yoga, cycling, and circus arts such as aerial and contortion. When I tell people what I do I often get the “I didn’t know big girls did…” This is almost as bad as when people find out I have a M.A. in Library Science and they say in a shocked tone “They have masters degrees for librarians? Don’t you just check out books and tell people to be quiet?” It’s obnoxious.

Self Suspension R: RunningAemok P: Knot_head
Self Suspension
R: RunningAemok P: Knot_head

I let this kind of open prejudice, generally prefaced with “I don’t mean to be rude,” keep me from participating in things I was interested in including rope bondage. When I looked at the BDSM media I didn’t see many bodies like mine represented. It gave me the impression that it’s fine to do rope privately as a big girl but don’t think anyone other than your partner would ever be interested in it. Unlike a lot of others, I was lucky to have had a positive first experience with suspension. Though I was nervous about being too bit Master Penguin didn’t bat a lash when I asked for my first flight.

Lyra (Aerial Hoop) Practice

Over the years, as I have added different types of activities to my life, I’ve come to understand that there is so much more than just the number on the scale or the curve of my body that allows/inhibits my activities. So when someone says “I don’t mean to be rude but I didn’t know bigger girls could do…” I work just that much harder to show that YES! Anyone can do [rope, aerial, yoga, contortion, other activities they love] if they have a passion and try hard enough. They may never join Cirque Shibari or Cirque du Soleil but they can love what they do regardless of their size or other people’s assumptions.


This post sparked by a shared article #Sizedoesntmatter Challenge Shows That Plus Size Women Can Do Yoga Too found at Plus Model Mag