Identity, Personal

Happy girl. Pretty Bruises.

I haven't played hard (by my standards) in a long time both when bottoming for the few who Top/Dom me as well as in my self-suspension. Over the last few months, I've been craving rougher play again and I've been enjoying it in tiny doses which have been good for me. This past weekend I… Continue reading Happy girl. Pretty Bruises.


My Big FAT Rebuttal

Recently I read a post about wanting to "swap people's attitude about herpes with their attitude about obesity" on Fetlife. While I understand her wanting to advocate to breaking down the stigma that surrounds herpes using body shaming isn't a way to do it. All it does is turn an entire population off to anything else… Continue reading My Big FAT Rebuttal


Choosing Peace

Lately life has been throwing me one curve ball after another: relationships, work, home, circus, rope. As soon as I think I've gotten back to a balanced place another ball comes my way. Sometimes I feel like it's just too much to deal with. In the past, I was the cut and run type but… Continue reading Choosing Peace


Preparing for Rope by Clover

I've been following Kinkyclover's work for a while and wanted to share this well written piece on preparing yourself for rope work. Preparing for Rope by Clover

Identity, Kink

Owning Your Labels

I have a love/hate relationship with labels. They are nothing more than descriptors we use to classify things, people, and places. For the most part we choose how we self identify: straight, gay, bi, kinky, leather, Dominate, submissive, switch. Unfortunately, far too many people put emphasis on strict "true" definitions and not personal ones. These… Continue reading Owning Your Labels